It is March, and I feel like I am getting my first goal under control. I have managed to go to seven of the eight bible study sessions and I just signed up for another study. I have really enjoyed it. I have a lot to continue to work on, learn and grow with but I feel like I am at least taking positive step in the right direction.
My second goal for 2011 is to work on my relationships with my family and friends. It seems that I am always feeling guilty about not getting friends called back, not making enough time to get that email sent. It just seems that there is never enough time to get everything done.
One of my problems is that as soon as I get on a phone call everyone in my household needs something. It amazes me that I can be doing nothing, and they are doing their own thing, but the second I go to do something else they all want my attention.
My goal is to be able to say this statement and believe it. "My family and friends know that I love them because I show interest in their lives by staying in touch with them through visiting, phone calls, letters, and emails."
Actions I plan to take:
- update address book, phone numbers, and emails
- set up blocks of time on my calendar to make those phone calls
- talk with my husband and son about these blocks of time that I need to take to stay in touch with the people I care about
- work on getting a new cell phone plan so I can have more minutes during better calling hours.
- I also need to work on not feeling bad about randomly calling to talk to people for a short period of time or scheduling times with them.
I recently read a study that people my age have a hard time with this particular thing, especially with their friends because it is a time in their lives where we are the caretakers putting others needs above our own. It then went on to say that by the time the kids our out of the house we will reconnect with those girl friends that we maybe didn't see and talk to as much as we had wanted to in our 30's. That gave me hope but it still doesn't take away the guilt. We will see what happens, looking forward to reconnecting with some fun and important people.
